Call me naive, call me gullible...call me stupid...but whatever you call me don't call me wrong. In life I try to live by that rule "Don't judge a book by it's cover" I'm not always successful (which is another post) but I try and in doing so I take that all the way to the bank. I trust people at their word, and I continue to trust them until they give me reason not to. Once they have, I'm done with them, my trust can never be regained.
I'm talking about this because I was thinking about a conversation I had a couple months ago. I had just stopped watching a child who attends my church and I had yet to get paid for the last week or so. I was already well aware of the parents finances and how/when the majority of their money came in. So, I wasn't worried or anxious about getting paid. In fact, I was just the opposite. I trusted that they would pay me as soon as they had the money and until then I wasn't going to worry about it. But I went to a friend's house and they were shocked that I had not only not been paid yet, but that I wasn't demanding to be paid right then are there. For the next 30 minutes or so I got doubled team about how I needed to call her and demand that I get my money or remind her somehow that they still owe me. The more I tried to explain my position the more they yelled at me and the more upset I became. Basically what these two people were telling me was that whatever trust I had built up with this family over that last few months should be thrown away for money. I know that's the world we live in...people see the opportunity to get money and don't really care who they screw over, but I'm not like that. If that makes me naive, then so be it. You see I'd rather be naive, I'd rather trust that people will do what they say then to walk around my whole life with a giant chip on my shoulder. I'd rather see the potential good over the potential negativity. I'd rather trust than not...it really keeps the stress down.
Everyone chooses to conduct their lives differently based on experiences...my experiences tell me that when I trust people I'm more successful than when I don't. And when that trust is broken, my experience tells me never to trust that person again. That's how I view it...that's what I act on.
In the end, without demanding something they couldn't give me at the time. Without looking and acting like some sort of craze bitch who has no tact I got the money owed to me. No questions, no hang ups. Because I had a relationship built on trust. So if I'm naive, gullible or stupid....fine, but I'm not wrong.
Thursday, January 26, 2012
Judging a Book by it's Cover
We've all done it. Even if we try not to, we have. The unconscious locking of the door whenever a certain person walks by. Crossing the street to avoid a certain group of people. Making a face when we see what someone maybe wearing or doing...and of course thinking instinctively something negative about a person with a certain accent. These are all things we've all done. Does it make them right? Nope! Does it make them wrong? Nope.
Since we were children we've been trained consciously and unconsciously to believe certain things about certain people. We, as a people, are groomed to be prejudice. First of all, it's not a bad thing...it's just a thing. It comes from experience and what we're taught. Example: Some people think tattoos are low-class and that the people who get are too. While others believe that tattoos are one of the highest forms of artistry. Still for others tattoos are their ancestry and therefore apart of their existence. Why we think the way we do is simple...we've been fed things since before we could remember...everyday on TV, in books and magazines...even the news (especially the news) has given us negatives to process about the people around us.
I for, one have a thing about accents...I love European accents...but hate accents from the South, Boston and any Latin American country. I also (even though I'm black) tend to lock my doors when a black man walks by my car. And please don't get me started on how I see a Caucasian woman's hair and wish mine looked like that. These are all things I've been fed...look up to the Europeans, hate the sounds of unintelligence, don't trust black men they're gonna rob you and of course we all want to look like white women because they're the most desirable.
In the end we feed these stereotypes to our children and our children's children. Even when we know that truth, which is that these things aren't true, we still feed them. Because we can't help ourselves. I still look at a white man from the South and think he hates black people. Look at an Asian person and think steer clean they can't drive and still...I look at a guy who's brown with a shaved head and think...he must be in a gang. But those are my experiences...those are my surroundings and those are the things I've been taught.
Am I ashamed of my thinking? Sometimes...but I know my heart and I try my best to keep these thoughts and words out of my head...but on instinct we all go back to what we know and what we all know is the prejudice propaganda that we've been taught all our lives.
If you don't believe me or think this cannot be apart of you...think about this. For 40-50 years we lived under the threat of the cold world. It ended when I was still fairly young, but I remember hating the Russians, hating their flag, hating their accents, even hating the color red. Now, if you were born before 1983 think...whenever you hear about Russia do you first think of hate? No? Okay, how about when you think of Cuba...Korea...Iraq...Afghanistan. We've been taught to fear and hate these people....guess what they've been taught to fear and hate us. For most of us, sitting behind a desk having nothing to do with war, we are subject to the propaganda of our government and they in turn, are subject to theirs.
Since we were children we've been trained consciously and unconsciously to believe certain things about certain people. We, as a people, are groomed to be prejudice. First of all, it's not a bad thing...it's just a thing. It comes from experience and what we're taught. Example: Some people think tattoos are low-class and that the people who get are too. While others believe that tattoos are one of the highest forms of artistry. Still for others tattoos are their ancestry and therefore apart of their existence. Why we think the way we do is simple...we've been fed things since before we could remember...everyday on TV, in books and magazines...even the news (especially the news) has given us negatives to process about the people around us.
I for, one have a thing about accents...I love European accents...but hate accents from the South, Boston and any Latin American country. I also (even though I'm black) tend to lock my doors when a black man walks by my car. And please don't get me started on how I see a Caucasian woman's hair and wish mine looked like that. These are all things I've been fed...look up to the Europeans, hate the sounds of unintelligence, don't trust black men they're gonna rob you and of course we all want to look like white women because they're the most desirable.
In the end we feed these stereotypes to our children and our children's children. Even when we know that truth, which is that these things aren't true, we still feed them. Because we can't help ourselves. I still look at a white man from the South and think he hates black people. Look at an Asian person and think steer clean they can't drive and still...I look at a guy who's brown with a shaved head and think...he must be in a gang. But those are my experiences...those are my surroundings and those are the things I've been taught.
Am I ashamed of my thinking? Sometimes...but I know my heart and I try my best to keep these thoughts and words out of my head...but on instinct we all go back to what we know and what we all know is the prejudice propaganda that we've been taught all our lives.
If you don't believe me or think this cannot be apart of you...think about this. For 40-50 years we lived under the threat of the cold world. It ended when I was still fairly young, but I remember hating the Russians, hating their flag, hating their accents, even hating the color red. Now, if you were born before 1983 think...whenever you hear about Russia do you first think of hate? No? Okay, how about when you think of Cuba...Korea...Iraq...Afghanistan. We've been taught to fear and hate these people....guess what they've been taught to fear and hate us. For most of us, sitting behind a desk having nothing to do with war, we are subject to the propaganda of our government and they in turn, are subject to theirs.
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
I Just Don't Understand...
how you can settle for less. No, let's be real, you've settled! Why do you think you don't deserve better? Do you think you can't handle being alone? Or were you bought for a pass and a purse...maybe more?
you say this is love...how can it be? love is patience, love is kind, love does not dishonor others, love is not self-seeking, love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth, love always protects, love never fails....tell me what part of his love has ever encompassed any of these things?
if he calls you a bitch, if he tells you to fuck off...not only is that not love...that's not respect and how can you be with someone who does not respect you? how can you throw away your relationships for the one person who left you to be with several others? Who jetted you off to another state under false pretenses because he's two stupid to get himself out of the mess he created. Who married another woman, lived with her and lied to you repeatedly over months? How can you stand to be in the same room, house, bed with a man who is probably still having sex with someone else?
because you love him more than you love yourself? because you respect him more than you respect yourself?because you cannot see your life without him, even if it means you have to take verbal and emotion abuse over and over again? do you really think he loves you? do you really think he respects you?
if he did, he would have never crawled into bed with another woman...he would've never left you and came here to be with her. he would've never said he didn't want to be with you. but all those things happened and still, with one word, you went running back. abandoning all the good things in your lift for the bad thing that will keep you crying and in therapy.
you deserve better, but he's pushed you down so low that you can't even see how bad it is. I feel bad for you. I feel bad that there's nothing I can do but sit and watch and pray that you don't make a mistake you can't take back....because when he walks away again...you'll be stuck.
but you'll probably just go running back.
Sunday, January 15, 2012
Pushy Christians (Update)
A friend of mine came through and read this post...he person told me that I'm not the only person who has experienced this situation with the female I was wrote about. Several others have also been backed into a corner and asked questions that are necessarily appropriate by the same woman. So, I'm not alone...but I don't know if that a good or bad thing. oh well!
This last Sunday I went to church and enjoyed the service. I found myself sitting by myself and seeing people I haven't seen in a while. I also happened to sit behind some fairly new people. I say fairly new, because I've seen them several times before when I attended church under the radar (they, apparently never saw me). I will remember them for some specific reasons. One, the woman was doing the "Axl Rose Dance" (if you don't what that is watch the Sweet Child of Mine video) during worship and Two, the encounter that took place after church.
Now, even though I blog about my life, I tend to be a rather reserved in person. I don't get in your business and I definitely don't want you in mine. So, why within two minutes of introducing herself to me did this woman start to pry into my life? She began to ask me things that were innocent at first glance but still not really the type of questions you ask of someone you just met. I was taken back by all these questions but because she threw them at me in a rapid fire pace my brain just answered them all without stopping. It wasn't until later that I stopped to think about the conversation, about the questions and my stunned somewhat uneasy answers. I found that the thing that most offended me was a kind of backhanded comment she made.
She asked how long I've been going to my church, I told her more than ten years and she said she'd never seen me before (which isn't too odd, because we have 2 Sunday morning services) when I told her that I only come sporadically and that if I'm not here I'm at home she said, "well at least you're not church hopping". Huh? Excuse me? So what if I am...who are you, this person I've own for 30 seconds to analyze me and come out with that? Looking back that was the moment when I should have politely walked away from her.
Not all churches are the same some offer things you cannot find anywhere else. Some are generic and still some are filled with people who find it their business to be in yours. I go to my church because I love my Pastor and his wife...those are my reasons, other things about it are lacking. I go for the sermon. If I choose to find others Churches to fill my worship needs who is anyone else to critique or criticize that? Especially someone who doesn't know me?
That is one of my main problems with some Christians (which I know is a weird statements considering I myself am a Christian), the judgements they thrust upon others, they do it by putting people down and judging but calling it concern. It's fake, hurtful and frankly unneeded. Instead of pushing for information into someones life, why don't you push to help a family in need or pray for the sick. I don't need your questions or remarks about my life, when you don't know anything about it.
This last Sunday I went to church and enjoyed the service. I found myself sitting by myself and seeing people I haven't seen in a while. I also happened to sit behind some fairly new people. I say fairly new, because I've seen them several times before when I attended church under the radar (they, apparently never saw me). I will remember them for some specific reasons. One, the woman was doing the "Axl Rose Dance" (if you don't what that is watch the Sweet Child of Mine video) during worship and Two, the encounter that took place after church.
Now, even though I blog about my life, I tend to be a rather reserved in person. I don't get in your business and I definitely don't want you in mine. So, why within two minutes of introducing herself to me did this woman start to pry into my life? She began to ask me things that were innocent at first glance but still not really the type of questions you ask of someone you just met. I was taken back by all these questions but because she threw them at me in a rapid fire pace my brain just answered them all without stopping. It wasn't until later that I stopped to think about the conversation, about the questions and my stunned somewhat uneasy answers. I found that the thing that most offended me was a kind of backhanded comment she made.
She asked how long I've been going to my church, I told her more than ten years and she said she'd never seen me before (which isn't too odd, because we have 2 Sunday morning services) when I told her that I only come sporadically and that if I'm not here I'm at home she said, "well at least you're not church hopping". Huh? Excuse me? So what if I am...who are you, this person I've own for 30 seconds to analyze me and come out with that? Looking back that was the moment when I should have politely walked away from her.
Not all churches are the same some offer things you cannot find anywhere else. Some are generic and still some are filled with people who find it their business to be in yours. I go to my church because I love my Pastor and his wife...those are my reasons, other things about it are lacking. I go for the sermon. If I choose to find others Churches to fill my worship needs who is anyone else to critique or criticize that? Especially someone who doesn't know me?
That is one of my main problems with some Christians (which I know is a weird statements considering I myself am a Christian), the judgements they thrust upon others, they do it by putting people down and judging but calling it concern. It's fake, hurtful and frankly unneeded. Instead of pushing for information into someones life, why don't you push to help a family in need or pray for the sick. I don't need your questions or remarks about my life, when you don't know anything about it.
New Shows...(Update #2)
So, here's my update...it's a little late seeing that the two shows I'm going to be talking about started in October and one is already done for the season...but better late than never I say! Also, I'm going to give my thoughts on the first few reviews I've posted.
* Homeland (Showtime): Right off the bat I didn't want to like this show. Why? Because I don't really care for Claire Danes....don't get me wrong, she's a great actress, but she's done some things in her personal life that offend me so I generally avoid her. But this show was great! Riveting, on the edge of your seat each and every episode! The story line took twists and turns I didn't even see coming and in the end I was really upset that Brody didn't do what he was supposed to do. It was a weird place to be, because as he was the "bad guy" I'm supposed to hate him, but I wanted Claire's Carrie to be right even more than I wanted Brody to be stopped. Good writing and wonderful acting all around. I really truly enjoyed this show and can't wait for the next season to start.
*Once Upon A Time (ABC) So, I'm not going to lie. After Revenge this was the show I most wanted to not only watch but wanted to be good. I just couldn't see how they'd continue along with the theme of fairy tales throughout a whole season and keep it good. So far, they have. The writing and acting are good. They differing story lines that all seemingly inter-connect without much connection is awesome. It's giving a new spin to all the fairy tales I've grown up with and making me want to come back for more. Sometimes I'm so wrapped up in it that I don't even realize I've been sitting in one spot for an hour. I can't say enough about this and I know that the season is going to keep going strong until the end.
It's my favorite time of year...the start of a new TV Season! With the new season, comes the reality that old loves are gone and new potential loves are here. This year is no different.
Looking through the new shows there were only a handful that caught my eye and only those have found me taking the time to watch them. So here's my opinions on the new shows I've watched...which ones I'll continue to follow and which ones I'm already done with. I totally forgot a show when I originally wrote this...it's been added to the bottom of the new show reviews.
* The Secret Circle (CW): Teenage Witches! Very pretty girls wearing cute clothes...and a exciting storyline. So far, so good. I'd never heard of this book series and being completely tired of supernatural teen fair I wasn't very excited about this but I decided to give it a try anyway. I enjoyed the first two episodes (and I just realized I missed the third) but it's on a ticking clock. It has everything to succeed but one of the male leads creeps me out (he's wearing too much make up, trying to hard to seem mysterious and I know he's in his 20's so the disbelief isn't suspended). One false move or completely ridiculous plot twist and I'm out...but for now it's a good little show. I stopped watching this show shortly after writing this review. It was just too contrived for me to continue down that path. And the teens got stupid and frustrating.
* Revenge (ABC): I must say that I was very disappointed at the cancellation of Brothers and Sisters, but when I saw that Emily Van Camp was starring in her own show, my heart couldn't of been happier (since she's a B&S alum). This story of a young woman sticking it to the people who screwed over her father and ruined her life has made me smile since minute one. My favorite part of the show is the end, when you see exactly how she got over someone during the episode. I will watch this one til the end...I want to see where this is gonna go and how they're going to wrap it all up. Interesting! This show has not disappointed me yet. It gets better and better every week (how is that even possible?). Just when I think they can't come up with anymore they do and it's exciting to watch.
* Unforgettable (CBS): I only watched this because I like Poppy Montgomery. Nothing about it screamed good show...I watched it and was bored. If I want to watch a serial detective show about a cop with a troubled past I'll go watch THE CLOSER (which is currently on hiatus). I won't be tuning in to this anymore...the unbelievable sexual tension and the whininess of it all is just too much to stomach. I'll leave this to the people who love CBS too much to not watch their lame shows. (Also I don't like her new hair color, it's distracting). I can't believe this is the number 1 new drama....lame!
* Terra Nova I enjoyed it (it's done for the season). It felt like a weekly escape into so very pretty country with crazy people and dinosaurs. The season finale was a game changer so next season is going to be different and will continue to peak on interest.
* Hart of Dixie (CW) This show is very cute...typical fish out of water scenario, about a Doctor from NYC who's life doesn't turn out like she planned. She ends up in small town Alabama taking over the practice of a Doctor whose seemingly been stalking her for years....turns out it's just the thing she needs (like all fish out of water stories). It's funny and sweet and I love Rachel Bilson. I'm in for the long haul with this show. It'll be fun to watch. Still fun, still entertaining, still watching!
So there you go...only four shows! There is one more I'm looking forward to checking out, but it doesn't premiere until the end of October, so I'll come back and review that one then. As far as the shows that returned to my life...
Blue Bloods* I'm sorta getting tired of the show...but not the 'stache
Hawaii 5-0*
Fringe
They all made me smile on premiere night!
*yes, I know I commented about CBS and it's lame shows...but these two aren't lame...you cannot call a show with a HOT lead who likes to change his shirt (Hawaii 5-0) or a show with Tom Selleck's mustache lame! You just can't
* Homeland (Showtime): Right off the bat I didn't want to like this show. Why? Because I don't really care for Claire Danes....don't get me wrong, she's a great actress, but she's done some things in her personal life that offend me so I generally avoid her. But this show was great! Riveting, on the edge of your seat each and every episode! The story line took twists and turns I didn't even see coming and in the end I was really upset that Brody didn't do what he was supposed to do. It was a weird place to be, because as he was the "bad guy" I'm supposed to hate him, but I wanted Claire's Carrie to be right even more than I wanted Brody to be stopped. Good writing and wonderful acting all around. I really truly enjoyed this show and can't wait for the next season to start.
*Once Upon A Time (ABC) So, I'm not going to lie. After Revenge this was the show I most wanted to not only watch but wanted to be good. I just couldn't see how they'd continue along with the theme of fairy tales throughout a whole season and keep it good. So far, they have. The writing and acting are good. They differing story lines that all seemingly inter-connect without much connection is awesome. It's giving a new spin to all the fairy tales I've grown up with and making me want to come back for more. Sometimes I'm so wrapped up in it that I don't even realize I've been sitting in one spot for an hour. I can't say enough about this and I know that the season is going to keep going strong until the end.
It's my favorite time of year...the start of a new TV Season! With the new season, comes the reality that old loves are gone and new potential loves are here. This year is no different.
Looking through the new shows there were only a handful that caught my eye and only those have found me taking the time to watch them. So here's my opinions on the new shows I've watched...which ones I'll continue to follow and which ones I'm already done with. I totally forgot a show when I originally wrote this...it's been added to the bottom of the new show reviews.
* The Secret Circle (CW): Teenage Witches! Very pretty girls wearing cute clothes...and a exciting storyline. So far, so good. I'd never heard of this book series and being completely tired of supernatural teen fair I wasn't very excited about this but I decided to give it a try anyway. I enjoyed the first two episodes (and I just realized I missed the third) but it's on a ticking clock. It has everything to succeed but one of the male leads creeps me out (he's wearing too much make up, trying to hard to seem mysterious and I know he's in his 20's so the disbelief isn't suspended). One false move or completely ridiculous plot twist and I'm out...but for now it's a good little show. I stopped watching this show shortly after writing this review. It was just too contrived for me to continue down that path. And the teens got stupid and frustrating.
* Revenge (ABC): I must say that I was very disappointed at the cancellation of Brothers and Sisters, but when I saw that Emily Van Camp was starring in her own show, my heart couldn't of been happier (since she's a B&S alum). This story of a young woman sticking it to the people who screwed over her father and ruined her life has made me smile since minute one. My favorite part of the show is the end, when you see exactly how she got over someone during the episode. I will watch this one til the end...I want to see where this is gonna go and how they're going to wrap it all up. Interesting! This show has not disappointed me yet. It gets better and better every week (how is that even possible?). Just when I think they can't come up with anymore they do and it's exciting to watch.
* Unforgettable (CBS): I only watched this because I like Poppy Montgomery. Nothing about it screamed good show...I watched it and was bored. If I want to watch a serial detective show about a cop with a troubled past I'll go watch THE CLOSER (which is currently on hiatus). I won't be tuning in to this anymore...the unbelievable sexual tension and the whininess of it all is just too much to stomach. I'll leave this to the people who love CBS too much to not watch their lame shows. (Also I don't like her new hair color, it's distracting). I can't believe this is the number 1 new drama....lame!
* Terra Nova I enjoyed it (it's done for the season). It felt like a weekly escape into so very pretty country with crazy people and dinosaurs. The season finale was a game changer so next season is going to be different and will continue to peak on interest.
* Hart of Dixie (CW) This show is very cute...typical fish out of water scenario, about a Doctor from NYC who's life doesn't turn out like she planned. She ends up in small town Alabama taking over the practice of a Doctor whose seemingly been stalking her for years....turns out it's just the thing she needs (like all fish out of water stories). It's funny and sweet and I love Rachel Bilson. I'm in for the long haul with this show. It'll be fun to watch. Still fun, still entertaining, still watching!
So there you go...only four shows! There is one more I'm looking forward to checking out, but it doesn't premiere until the end of October, so I'll come back and review that one then. As far as the shows that returned to my life...
Blue Bloods* I'm sorta getting tired of the show...but not the 'stache
Hawaii 5-0*
Fringe
They all made me smile on premiere night!
*yes, I know I commented about CBS and it's lame shows...but these two aren't lame...you cannot call a show with a HOT lead who likes to change his shirt (Hawaii 5-0) or a show with Tom Selleck's mustache lame! You just can't
Thursday, January 12, 2012
Baptism
My brother was baptized last Sunday.
I assumed that he had already been baptized...since he had gone to a different church for so long and has a tendency to secretive. I just thought it was something he'd done and not mentioned. I was wrong.
Baptism is a personal choice...but a big choice. It's a declaration to the world, to the body that I'm now apart of you. We can accept Jesus quietly without making much noise...without a big giant show. Just sitting, standing, kneeling or even driving we can ask Jesus into out hearts and lives. But baptism is a shout...it's a big giant leap, it's designed to show everyone that you're ready to walk the walk and talk the talk.
My brother did that this weekend.
I am proud of him. I'm happy about the decision he's made not only to be baptized and presented to the community of followers, but also to help minister to the youth around him. To be the example of what it means to be a Christ follower.
No one is perfect...but we can strive for it...we can live our lives in a way that will honor God and represent him to the best of our abilities. I know that Randal has accepted this challenge and will do his best.
I love you and I pray that you will continue to be a man after God's own heart, a light onto the world and a person those around you can/will look up to!
I assumed that he had already been baptized...since he had gone to a different church for so long and has a tendency to secretive. I just thought it was something he'd done and not mentioned. I was wrong.
Baptism is a personal choice...but a big choice. It's a declaration to the world, to the body that I'm now apart of you. We can accept Jesus quietly without making much noise...without a big giant show. Just sitting, standing, kneeling or even driving we can ask Jesus into out hearts and lives. But baptism is a shout...it's a big giant leap, it's designed to show everyone that you're ready to walk the walk and talk the talk.
My brother did that this weekend.
I am proud of him. I'm happy about the decision he's made not only to be baptized and presented to the community of followers, but also to help minister to the youth around him. To be the example of what it means to be a Christ follower.
No one is perfect...but we can strive for it...we can live our lives in a way that will honor God and represent him to the best of our abilities. I know that Randal has accepted this challenge and will do his best.
I love you and I pray that you will continue to be a man after God's own heart, a light onto the world and a person those around you can/will look up to!
depression...or just...
I don't know if I suffer from depression. I have always figured that my mood is a direct result of whatever I'm dealing with at the time. I probably get this from my parents who do not believe in any type psychological help. I however, do believe in it, I understand that depression is more than just having a bad day and yet...I've never really examined my bad days to see if they're more than that.
I don't know what made me think about this...maybe it's all the medication commercials. Maybe it's my lack of activity outside of my house...maybe it's just me growing and looking at myself in the mirror. Or maybe I'm starting to understand myself more.
I tend to think of my circumstances rationally. I know that my actions have consequences, I know that when I do or don't do something the result will have to be dealt with. I've never really be down for longer than a couple of days...I tend to see my down days through the Christian perspective of going through the valley's of life, but is it something more? Is there something I'm missing? It's just another thing I must try to figure out. Just another part of myself I am trying to get in tune with...
I don't know what made me think about this...maybe it's all the medication commercials. Maybe it's my lack of activity outside of my house...maybe it's just me growing and looking at myself in the mirror. Or maybe I'm starting to understand myself more.
I tend to think of my circumstances rationally. I know that my actions have consequences, I know that when I do or don't do something the result will have to be dealt with. I've never really be down for longer than a couple of days...I tend to see my down days through the Christian perspective of going through the valley's of life, but is it something more? Is there something I'm missing? It's just another thing I must try to figure out. Just another part of myself I am trying to get in tune with...
Picking on Michelle Obama (this is a RANT)
Now, let me start by saying...I did not like W. I thought he was a moron who was controlled by Karl Rove and Dick Cheney. I also didn't much care for his daughters who, during the first four years, acted like spoiled brats. But I never said a bad thing about Laura, in fact, other than marrying a buffoon I never found anything to dislike about her. So hearing things about the current first lady that are clearly personal and mean it just baffling to me on many levels.
Maybe people don't think it's the First Lady's duty to be so out and about on things she cares for. I don't remember Laura (or Barbara) really doing anything...Nancy was all about the war on drugs and Hilary was all about everything. I don't see how this First Lady trying to get a country full of BIG FAT PEOPLE to get healthy is a bad nor is her stance on helping our troops. But people sure do jump on her for "being in their kitchens" and "telling them what to eat". This is a country were our congress counts ketchup are a vegetable in school food, I think we should have someone in our kitchen who is trying to be a good example!
She supports her husband (through good and bad) and she gets railroaded for it. That's her job...it's called being a good wife. You support your husband even if he's doing a bad job...these same people would call her out if she didn't. The most recent thing I've heard is a Senator calling her out of having a big butt...okay so first of all. She's a woman and women have curves...thousands of woman are paying millions of dollars to have her butt (or JLo's, or Shakira's) just because she has a big butt doesn't mean she's fat! It means she has a certain body type that many many women want and many many men (probably including this practicular Senator) wish they had next to them in bed.
Lastly, Christmas vacation in Hawaii...I'm pretty sure the Obama's have always gone to Hawaii for Christmas vacation. It's not like they just started doing it when they got in the White House. Considering that's where the President grew up, where his family still lives and that it's absolutely beautiful there I don't think it's too hard to believe they'd want to get out of dreary Chicago or Washington for a couple weeks. I actually heard someone say that Regan used to stay in DC for Christmas so that his Secret Service detail could have Christmas with their families...that's nice...but our last President spent more time in Texas than in DC over his ENTIRE tenure so why even go there?
Republicans choose to pick on Michelle because they don't know what to do with an educated, articulate, lovely black woman. So they call her out on the stupidest of things without realizing it really makes them look stupid. I like Mrs. Obama, I respect her and I think she's doing a wonderful job as our first lady. And frankly, I'd rather our young girls follow in her footsteps instead of those of Rihanna, Britney or the Kardashians.
Maybe people don't think it's the First Lady's duty to be so out and about on things she cares for. I don't remember Laura (or Barbara) really doing anything...Nancy was all about the war on drugs and Hilary was all about everything. I don't see how this First Lady trying to get a country full of BIG FAT PEOPLE to get healthy is a bad nor is her stance on helping our troops. But people sure do jump on her for "being in their kitchens" and "telling them what to eat". This is a country were our congress counts ketchup are a vegetable in school food, I think we should have someone in our kitchen who is trying to be a good example!
She supports her husband (through good and bad) and she gets railroaded for it. That's her job...it's called being a good wife. You support your husband even if he's doing a bad job...these same people would call her out if she didn't. The most recent thing I've heard is a Senator calling her out of having a big butt...okay so first of all. She's a woman and women have curves...thousands of woman are paying millions of dollars to have her butt (or JLo's, or Shakira's) just because she has a big butt doesn't mean she's fat! It means she has a certain body type that many many women want and many many men (probably including this practicular Senator) wish they had next to them in bed.
Lastly, Christmas vacation in Hawaii...I'm pretty sure the Obama's have always gone to Hawaii for Christmas vacation. It's not like they just started doing it when they got in the White House. Considering that's where the President grew up, where his family still lives and that it's absolutely beautiful there I don't think it's too hard to believe they'd want to get out of dreary Chicago or Washington for a couple weeks. I actually heard someone say that Regan used to stay in DC for Christmas so that his Secret Service detail could have Christmas with their families...that's nice...but our last President spent more time in Texas than in DC over his ENTIRE tenure so why even go there?
Republicans choose to pick on Michelle because they don't know what to do with an educated, articulate, lovely black woman. So they call her out on the stupidest of things without realizing it really makes them look stupid. I like Mrs. Obama, I respect her and I think she's doing a wonderful job as our first lady. And frankly, I'd rather our young girls follow in her footsteps instead of those of Rihanna, Britney or the Kardashians.
Tuesday, January 10, 2012
To you who come back here again and again...
thanks for taking time to read my craziness. I appreciate your interest.
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Tuesday, January 03, 2012
Sunday, January 01, 2012
2012 Part 1
Like some people around the world I'm completely fascinated with the 2012 prophesies!
I'm so intrigued with them that I watch every 2012 program that I see on Television (some multiple times). Because of all the knowledge I've gained I've formed my own opinion about the whole thing and over the year I'm going to share it.
One post would be too long and possibly very boring, so I'll take my time and break it into multiple posts. I just wanted to give the few readers I have that follow me consistently something to look forward to!
Until Next Time!
I'm so intrigued with them that I watch every 2012 program that I see on Television (some multiple times). Because of all the knowledge I've gained I've formed my own opinion about the whole thing and over the year I'm going to share it.
One post would be too long and possibly very boring, so I'll take my time and break it into multiple posts. I just wanted to give the few readers I have that follow me consistently something to look forward to!
Until Next Time!
I don't know...
how I feel about the end of a year that was so rocky, sad and scary and the beginning of a year in which I can't see myself.
I really had few moments of joy in 2011, but seemed to be consistently surrounded by anguish, sadness and nervousness (especially in the last few months of the year). So much so that I just wasn't excited about the Holidays or the New Year.
That's where I stand now! For the first time going into a new year I don't know what I'm going to do. I don't know where I'm going to land or how I'm going to get there. I feel like I'm on the verge of depression...and waiting for the right bad incident to send me over the edge.
I know what I want...but I have to achieve it...I'm scared of what will happen to me if what I really want doesn't come into beginning...I'm scared of being in this place at the dawn of 2013.
I really had few moments of joy in 2011, but seemed to be consistently surrounded by anguish, sadness and nervousness (especially in the last few months of the year). So much so that I just wasn't excited about the Holidays or the New Year.
That's where I stand now! For the first time going into a new year I don't know what I'm going to do. I don't know where I'm going to land or how I'm going to get there. I feel like I'm on the verge of depression...and waiting for the right bad incident to send me over the edge.
I know what I want...but I have to achieve it...I'm scared of what will happen to me if what I really want doesn't come into beginning...I'm scared of being in this place at the dawn of 2013.
New Year, New Goals
I was looking over my New Year Resolutions for 2011 and they were good ones...too bad they got railroaded by my lack of a job and lack of motivation. Oh well, it's a new year and a new start (right). I have decided that I need to start improving my mind and body...so here we go with my new goals (I go the goal idea from Martha at http://marthasmoxie.freepressblog.org/ )
*Read more books, watch less Television
*Try new things
*do the things that scare me
*follow through with my goals (no matter the obstacles)
*take better care of myself inside and out
*continue to develop and care for my relationships.
*write consistently
*share my love with those who need it
*Read more books, watch less Television
*Try new things
*do the things that scare me
*follow through with my goals (no matter the obstacles)
*take better care of myself inside and out
*continue to develop and care for my relationships.
*write consistently
*share my love with those who need it
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